Fluffy, on 2013-January-04, 17:23, said:
I wanted to know if thinking about souls or reincarnation or something like after a loss is innate to humans or something I learnt. Before my mother passed away it was unclear if I was religious or agnostic, but I becam a lot more religious after.
I find that interesting. It strikes me that the only explanation for this would be a desire that your mother not be really 'dead': that there is an afterlife.
I have long thought that this wish-fulfillment is a major factor in the religious belief of most and that many of the more 'sophisticated' arguments in support of religious belief are just smokescreens or rationalizations.
We actually have no reason, founded in fact or observation or even logic, to think that there is anything 'out there' that even knows we exist, let alone gives a damn about us. Even if we accept some form of divine explanation for the creation of the universe, there seems to be no reason why we should think that such a divinity would in any manner provide for a life after death for any of us, let alone a heaven, a hell or purgatory.
No, even if there can be a logical basis for assuming that 'something' must have 'caused' the Big Bang, and that we may as well label that explanation 'GOD', that carries within it no reason to think that any human religion has 'got it right'. We like our religions because they console us with respect to death.
I mean no disrespect and certainly mean no criticism of anyone's reaction to personal tragedy when I say that turning to religion reflects an attempt to avoid reality. Sometimes reality sucks.
A long time ago, a friend told me that she used marijuana on a daily basis because it took the edge off the bad things in life. It seems to me that religion can serve the same function. And if a belief in the afterlife helps get one through the day, and doesn't cause one to hurt others, then who are we atheists to say that the believer is being an idiot?
I don't smoke dope, but I am definitely in favour of legalization. I don't believe in any religion, but I wouldn't support it being made illegal. As humans, we all need help dealing with the ***** that happens, and so long as our tools don't cause harm to others, then use whatever works.
As for Gonzalo's 2nd point, I suspect that the extent to which one's thoughts turn to oneself or to others will depend on the nature of the tragedy, the impact the tragedy can be expected to have on one's life, the relationship one had with the person concerned and so on.
I once had reason to fear someone very close to me was about to die, and I remember thinking very selfishly. It was odd, because one of the alternative outcomes would have been a stroke with significant quality of life issues, and I remember thinking about how horrible that would be for the person. So I was sort of thinking selfishly and unselfishly at the same time. That makes sense to me rationally, in that the dead person doesn't experience anything: there is no person 'left'. All there is are the memories held by others. But I don't think I was thinking rationally at that time: my memory is of my mind racing and dancing from fear to hope and back.
In short, I don't think any the less of Gonzalo because of the selfish nature of his immediate reaction. Indeed, I respect him for being aware of that nature and of questionning it.
'one of the great markers of the advance of human kindness is the howls you will hear from the Men of God' Johann Hari