GreenMan, on 2015-January-18, 17:21, said:
Some in this thread seem to disagree. The weak must suffer!
That is simply not true. You just fail to see that it is more humiliating to get beaten by the second string team, with one hand tied to their back than it is to be properly blitzed by the first string team. You are making a connection between suffering and the score in the game, that simply isn't there.
The point is that the suffering does not come from losing in itself. If you suffer when you lose a game, you shouldn't be playing, unless you're a masochist, since -let's face it- if there are only two competitors you are expected to lose half of the time. (And if you play bridge in a 100 pair session, you expect to lose 99% of the time.)
If you can play the best you can, learn something in the process, have pleasant opponents who e.g. pull you up when you fall or put their hand on your shoulder after the game, you can lose by 250-0 and still have had a pleasant experience.
In any game I have played, chess, soccer, volleyball, tennis, and bridge, or whatever, I have lost games with an enormous pleasure and I have won games that were genuinely unfullfilling (other than the -not very, but at least somewhat fullfilling- idea that I gave those #%@@#% opponents a good beating).
As an example from bridge, I have a very fond memory of a hand where a bridge professional (playing with a client) took a full top against us with a very well timed (and extremely lucky) psyche. After the round, he took us apart and said: "Sorry guys, but I knew that if I would play normal bridge against you, I would certainly lose, since you guys know what you are doing, and my partner is clueless."
That single bottom was much more fullfilling than all the tops we have had against players where we left the table immediately after the last card was played, since the opponents were only yelling at each other.
In short: winning or losing, and even blitzing or getting blitzed, has very little to do with humiliation or suffering, or the enjoyment of the game. It is the attitude and behavior of the players that creates the sportsmanship, not the score. The suspension of this coach revolved around the margin of victory, which is utter nonsense, since there is nothing unsportsmanlike in a win or in a win by a landslide.
What I actually found the most upsetting in this story is the coach's remark after the game: "I didn't expect them to be that bad." That is a sign of a wrong attitude. But if this coach would have said something like: "It was a fun afternoon. My players have learned a few things, and I think the opponents also learned a few things. You could see that they picked up a few tricks from our gals. We felt very welcome when we came here, and, best of all, I got the recipe for these great apple spice cookies. We would love to come here again next season to make both our teams better... and to get new recipes." then that would have been the perfect sportsmanship, no matter what the score of the game had been.
Rik
I want my opponents to leave my table with a smile on their face and without matchpoints on their score card - in that order.
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